Life With Dwayne Carter (TOYA)

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This is what Antonia Carter had to say about her marriage and kid

After reading the Lil Wayne cover story in VIBE’s November 2007 issue, Antonia “Toya” Carter, Lil Wayne’s first wife, wanted to give her side of the story. In the first part of this exclusive Q&A, she speaks about their history. She also loaned us a whole gang of photos – which seem to show they did have love, if only for a time – which we’ll be publishing here on vibe.com over the next few days. Maybe even this afternoon… if we feel like it. Keep checking back for everything you never knew about Lil Wayne… and the craziest photos you’ve never seen.

VIBE: How did you first meet Lil Wayne?
Antonia “Toya” Carter: I met Dwayne in middle school. He used to come perform and do stuff there. My seventh grade year, we started messing around then – up until high school. I got pregnant with my daughter during high school. We were boyfriend/girlfriend, in love.

How old were you then?
We had a baby at fourteen… we were in love. It wasn’t nothing about ‘His mom was lonely.’ I never heard that before. His Dad had passed away, and his mom was by herself, but it had nothing to do with the reason my daughter came about. It was just something that happened.

So he never asked you to have a baby?
No, he never really asked me to have a baby. He mentioned it before that he wanted a baby someday, but we didn’t know it was going to be that soon. It just happened during the time we were dating.

Was it a surprise when you found out you were pregnant?
Yeah, it was a complete surprise. My family wanted me to have an abortion because we were only fourteen and fifteen. I wasn’t with that because me and my aunt – who I lived with at the time – they didn’t really believe in that. His mother [said] she’d help me with the baby. It was a surprise to his mother too. His mother never told him, like he said in the interview, to go out and find someone. She was like, y’all young, you know, but I’ll help you out with the baby and stuff like that. It was a complete surprise to everyone.

Why do you think he’d say something like that?
I really don’t know. Like people, people these days say anything to sell. But you have to realize you can’t say anything to sell music anymore. It don’t just affect me or him. It affects our child, too, because she reads these things and hears these things. That’s my only reason to want to speak out about it.

How old is your daughter?
She’s 8 years old. She’s extremely bright and talented, just like her Daddy. She’s perceptive and attentive. She’s a very smart little girl. And I only can protect her from so much.

Me and [Dwayne] were crazy in love. We were inseparable. I would say one of his best friends at the time, up until now. I’m still a good friend of Dwayne. We have a good relationship. I really don’t know what’s his problem for saying these negative things.

How is your relationship now?
We really don’t see much of each other. And when we do, it’s really like sometimes he gets on his kick about family, he wants to be with us, you know ‘f’ these b’s. You know how men talk. And he wanna do whatever, but he’s just a man doing this and the other.
We really don’t have a real relationship where we’re together or where we be around each other or I see him a lot. But we talk here and there. We always call and talk to each other once in awhile, maybe say a few things or whatever, “I love you.” Or like when he need someone to talk to, I’m always there for him and when I need someone to talk to, he’s there.

How about his relationship with his daughter?
Wayne, he takes good care of his daughter. He’s become a better father over the years. He’s a great provider, you know. He talks to his daughter more than he ever did, now. He started this new thing where he has to call her every night before she goes to bed. And that’s something I love. They have a great relationship.

How about financially?
Wayne is a great provider. He really is. He is a great provider. He gives his daughter everything.

Lil wayne on Why he had a kid

On Toya, his first wife and the mother of his daughter:

“A year after Rabbit was gone, I was on tour like crazy with Cash Money, and my momma said she was bored, alone, and scared in the house by herself. She was like, ‘Why don’t you just have a baby with somebody? Just tell the little girl’s mom I’ma take care of the baby, don’t worry about that.’ I was like, ‘I don’t have nobody I like like that!’ She was like, ‘Just find somebody! You don’t like Toya?’ I was like, ‘Alright, I like her then.’ Toya was 14 when she got pregnant, and I was 15 asking 14-year-olds. Toya’s the only person that agreed outta all the ones I asked. I said that my momma wants a child. And they was like, ‘That’s your momma’s problem!’ So Toya was like, ‘Shiiit, when we due, boo?’

On Karrine “Superhead” Steffens:
“I just love her. That’s like my big sister and homie-lover-friend. I ain’t never found a homie-lover-friend ’til Karrine.”

Superhead on Lil Wayne

A super-exclusive excerpt from VIBE’s December 2007 issue: Is Karrine “Superhead” Steffens in love with Lil Wayne? Fresh off her book The Vixen Diaries, she dished EVERYTHING on Wayne, from love to, yep, sex.

On loving Weezy:
“It was hard at first because I had to learn how to love him, because he’s not like any other guy. It’s like he’s from another planet. When he wakes up in the morning, he may not talk to you. He might just get dressed and leave. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you, it just means he’s about to go work and he’s in his zone and his zone has nothing to do with you.”

On the nature of their relationship:
“He’ll be 25 in two weeks and I’m 29, but I’m willing to wait until he’s ready. In the meantime, he’s like my best friend. He’s my John Lennon, I’m his Yoko Ono, and together, it just works.”

On sex with Lil Wayne:
“I can count on one hand how many times me and Wayne have had sex. That’s not what our relationship is based on. Seriously. When we do, we make love and it’s … amazing. It’s quiet. It’s slow. It’s full-contact. There’s no, ‘Flip over. Put your leg over here.’ It’s just two hearts. I can feel my heart beating against his heart, his whole body is wrapped around mine, and it’s us breathing together.”

On ‘Prostitute’:
“He called my house at four in the morning… and sang it to me. He was like, ‘That’s your song.’ I listen to it everyday over and over and over again in my car. That song is our relationship.”

Title of Book: Life with Dwayne

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